tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9098436815667360622024-03-19T07:36:33.609-04:00The Back To Life BlogINSIGHTS THAT HELP YOU TO LIVE WELL. Visit our website at www getbacktolife.orgDr. Terrie Lewinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15719784332986529971noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909843681566736062.post-90606214024230728792017-09-18T15:16:00.001-04:002017-09-18T15:16:52.689-04:00Monday Fun Day<!--[if gte mso 9]><xml>
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I am so used to people experiencing Monday morning as a
drag, or disappointing, or the worst day of the week.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This morning I was greeted at my gym by a new
staff person who told me he loved Mondays.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I feel fairly certain I shook my head like dogs in the movies,
what?!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I needed a moment to take it
in.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A celebration?!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am all over this one!<br />
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My reply.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>“Of
course.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If you love your life, Mondays
are wonderful”.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We shared a moment of
joy.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Opportunity knocks.<o:p></o:p></b></div>
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This guy (I’ll call him Mike) told me he sees Mondays as a
time to reset.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>That Monday is an
opportunity to think about what you want to happen and Monday is the perfect
day to hit the refresh button.<o:p></o:p></div>
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William James, commonly referred to as the "Father of
American Psychology" and working in the late 1800s, would agree with my new
friend Mike.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>His quote “The sovereign
voluntary path to cheerfulness . . . is to sit up cheerfully, to look round
cheerfully, and to act and speak as if cheerfulness were already there. . . To wrestle with a bad feeling only pins our attention on it, and keeps it still
fastened in the mind.” speaks to this.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Interesting thing is, that my experience changed in this
shared moment with Mike.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Not only was I
relieved of my dread of hearing someone share with me the usual ‘Mondays
suck’.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I wasn’t even aware of it til he
said something different.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> I felt surprisingly both relieved and happy. </span>As pack
animals, humans are neurologically hardwired to respond to the emotions of
another human to determine safety, etc.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Who we hang out with makes a big difference in the quality of our
lives.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>[I will write more ~one day ~ on
the science behind this.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>For now, just
for grins, assume it is true].<o:p></o:p></div>
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Even more compelling is that it works the other way as
well.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What you think, say and do impacts
all the people around you.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">DEEP REFLECTION:<o:p></o:p></b></div>
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What experience are you promoting for the people you say you
care about?<o:p></o:p></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Practice:<o:p></o:p></b></div>
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Next time you find you want to share a complaint with a
friend or loved love, first consider how that will impact their health.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Knowing that some of the distress you are
feeling will likely be experienced by that person (think about it like second
hand smoke).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>With that in mind, what
would you like to experience yourself and for your friend as well?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Is whatever you are about to say
necessary?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It is helpful?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Is it actually even true?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Say this, not that.<o:p></o:p></b></div>
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<i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Of course I am going
to go here.</i><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>NEEDS.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am a broken record inviting you to think
about your needs before doing or saying anything.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Two ways I am suggesting here.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
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First, consider the need you want to meet by communicating
with your friend.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Is the complaint going
to meet it?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Is there something else that
might be more effective?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What is
something that you can say that shares the truth of what is alive for you, and
might generate more enthusiasm, power in your world and connection between the
two of you as well.<o:p></o:p></div>
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The other is to consider what needs of yours is meeting to
be involved with work or whatever it is that you actually don’t like (or
dread?) Mondays.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What needs are met by
your choice of this job, or lifestyle?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>If you focus on the choice you are making, rather than believing the
idea that whatever is happening is completely outside of your control.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You might find a sense of empowerment and
freedom by doing this. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><br />
<br />
Then truly
Monday (and every day ~ for the most part) can be FunDay!<o:p></o:p></div>
Dr. Terrie Lewinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15719784332986529971noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909843681566736062.post-57349813109627975632017-08-31T08:54:00.000-04:002017-08-31T08:54:20.765-04:00Upping Your Gratitude Game<div class="MsoNormal">
I spent this past week with my long time partner Steve.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Both SuperGeeks for Nonviolent Communication
we tend to talk about and philosophize about how to be, do and teach NVC a great deal of the time when we are
together. A cool thing happened this visit.<o:p></o:p></div>
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We usually put together a list of things we might do upon my
arrival.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>After our trip to see the
eclipse [a truly ecstatic experience], we chose to participate in more projects
than we originally anticipated while I was in North Carolina.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It made for tight scheduling, lots of
thinking, and lots of opportunity to be in distress.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
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We began to notice our capacity to ‘forget to enjoy life’
and even drop into complaint (albeit only in tone of voice at times), with some
regularity and we decided to support ourselves in finding joy!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Steve’s request was to support his return to
joy by inviting him to share what he is grateful for if and when I noticed his
grumpy attitude.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He was far grumpier
than I, and more often than I, in my opinion (hehe).<o:p></o:p></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">What Happened?<o:p></o:p></b></div>
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What ended up happening was pretty amazing and fun!<o:p></o:p></div>
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Working on some hard, complicated projects late into the
night, we had a few [read more than you might imagine] opportunities to
implement our plan.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What ended up
happening, is the both of us spontaneously just broke into gratitudes if the
other had complaint energy. This happened instead of me reminding him…or him
reminding me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It seemed more efficient
somehow – not that either of us thought about it – to just begin announcing our
gratitudes.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> B</span>ecause of our competitive
nature the other would then start calling out their gratitudes too!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
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It was so much fun!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>All of a sudden I would hear Steve scream out, “I love my knees!, I
appreciate the sun!, <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am so grateful
for my life!”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In an instant I knew I
must have had complaint energy and broke out into my own shouts of
appreciation, “I love my hair!, My body supports me!, I love my
fingernails!”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And then we would laugh
and laugh. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Instant energy shift.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">More than joy. <o:p></o:p></b></div>
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While this new way of being was just delightful, we noticed
something more.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Pretty much all the week
something new happened consistently.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Here are a few examples.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span><o:p></o:p></div>
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This same project we were working on late into the
night.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We were putting something
together that we bought online.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We were
pretty certain that critical parts were missing.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As we got bummed out and found our joy again,
we decided to just keep going until we could not continue without the missing
part.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Our friend walked in to check up on
our progress.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He was one of the people
we were hoping to contribute to by doing this.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>We told him of our dilemma of the missing pieces.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Instantly he noticed that two pieces were
connected and in fact, not missing!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Not
only were we able to celebrate his saving the day, we were able to complete the
job that night!<o:p></o:p></div>
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It turned out that I needed to buy new tires while in
Asheville.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This was very much NOT part
of our plan and since I was driving home 600 miles the next day, my safety became
the priority need.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We were also hosting
an event that evening – just hours away that we wanted to create materials
for.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We decided to work while
waiting.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The tire place was in strip
mall.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
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Not wanting to sit inside and breathe the fresh scent of
rubber tires in the store, we were looking to a teeny strip of green to sit on
and get to work. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We had a few
opportunities to shout our gratitudes – needless to say.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The most astounding part was how easy this
was to do.<o:p></o:p></div>
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We walked toward the far end of the lot.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What did we find?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A park!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>At a river’s edge.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>With tables and
benches.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Lots of green space and
quiet.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Right there.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>[Steve has lived in Asheville for close to 20
years, and been to that strip mall many, many times, never knowing it was that
this park was tucked away in the back corner of the parking lot, just for
context of the miraculousness of this].<o:p></o:p></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">We Upped Our
Gratitude Game<o:p></o:p></b></div>
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Steve and I were crystal clear that staying in the gratitude
consciousness ~ <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">upping our gratitude
game</b> ~ allowed some kind of opening for us to create and/or to see what we
were hoping for.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Consistently.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It was remarkable.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">Say This Not That<o:p></o:p></b></div>
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I would like you to take my word for it, and just do this
too.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And, it really doesn’t matter.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Don’t take my word for it and just do this. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Find a buddy, or do it on your own.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Commit to changing your point of view the
instant you notice you want to complain.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Try it for a day.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Or better yet a
week.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I will be curious to read your
comments to hear what happens for you!<o:p></o:p></div>
Dr. Terrie Lewinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15719784332986529971noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909843681566736062.post-67112243350009374322017-08-25T12:22:00.000-04:002017-08-25T12:22:47.203-04:00What Difference Does it Make?<div class="MsoNormal">
While doing errands recently, I found myself behind an SUV
on a fairly busy street.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I was talking
with a good friend on the phone and I watched a wrapper (gum?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>candy?) fly out the window.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEic1PVnzuuE8_U9FNh6OYDC5g0iHk8DzPq_AR8Xax_R0mArbvsFZeyAipL7_kCL18Zc5WvYUsmPlSjEgJkZBtH0CeawHP9P6I7x3PzV7QzO1z6MGXUyv0uPvBIVLTxoTfRz4uLsMM7NTVf3/s1600/trash+being+thrown+from+car.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="183" data-original-width="276" height="132" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEic1PVnzuuE8_U9FNh6OYDC5g0iHk8DzPq_AR8Xax_R0mArbvsFZeyAipL7_kCL18Zc5WvYUsmPlSjEgJkZBtH0CeawHP9P6I7x3PzV7QzO1z6MGXUyv0uPvBIVLTxoTfRz4uLsMM7NTVf3/s200/trash+being+thrown+from+car.jpg" width="200" /></a>I said to my friend on the phone, “Someone just threw a
candy wrapper out the window”.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It was
obvious to both of us that what I didn’t say was my thought, “What a jerk!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>That person is the cause of many of the problems
the world faces.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Litterer!”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am fairly confident that in a span of 20
seconds, even more ‘jackal’ thoughts whizzed through my mind.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<br /></div>
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My friend said, almost immediately, “Oh, they must have
precious needs for ease and cleanliness.”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>In an instant I got that in 30 seconds the quality of my life changed.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
The one thing we have control over is our thoughts.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And the quality of our lives is directly
related to what we put our attention on.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>In the minutes after I watched the wrapper come out of the auto in front
of me, I became unhappy, feeling almost hopeless and helpless about the state
of the world, and aggravated with the unknown person in front of me.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Certainly I have precious needs for care, compassion, beauty
and a healthy planet.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>So seeing the
wrapper come out the driver’s window stimulated pain for me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Had I focused immediately on these precious
needs, a few things might have happened.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Those 30 seconds to one minute might have been less stressful on my body
(stress state = physical inflammation, more on this in another blog).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I might have come up with a strategy to have
those needs met.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>For example, I might
have immediately thought ‘I am going to plant something to offset the trash, or
possibly decided that I am going to sweep up the trash from my street’.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Those moments of aggravation didn’t allow for
the creativity necessary to meet my own needs.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span><o:p></o:p></div>
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<br /></div>
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Had I connected to my own needs, and been curious about the
possible needs for the person in the car, then had we somehow engaged in
conversation, there would be an increased likelihood that I might say something
that was connecting.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In my jackal
thoughts, I think either my words or energy or both would have indicated to
that person that I thought they were a jerk, and likely they would defend, get
angry back at me, and you can imagine the rest.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Nothing inspiring to me.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<br /></div>
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<b>So what difference does it make what I think?</b><o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
1.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The quality of my
health.<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
2.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The possibility of
connection with another human living life here with me.<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
3.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Having the
creativity to actually get my needs met.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<o:p><br /></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<o:p><b>Say This Not That. </b></o:p></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
Read a few of these and notice how you feel (emotions and in
your body) when each giraffe and jackal thought.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>See if you can notice a difference.<o:p></o:p></div>
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1.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She is so selfish,
and doesn’t care about anyone but herself.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>vs.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I so appreciate that she is
confident in her choices and has the capacity to ask for what she wants.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
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2.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What a stupid
question, why are they wasting my time in this class.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>vs.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>This seems so difficult for them, I wonder what is in the way of them
understanding what is being taught.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<br /></div>
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3.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He always is
taking over the meetings, talking too much.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>vs.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He seems to care so much
about our project.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I think I connect
more to him to see what meaning it has for him.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<br /></div>
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<o:p><b>Try this! </b></o:p></div>
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Next time you find yourself judging whether someone or
something is good or bad, or right or wrong, consider the impact on your life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>See if
you can translate your judgmental thoughts into the precious needs that are
causing your own distress.<o:p></o:p></div>
Dr. Terrie Lewinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15719784332986529971noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909843681566736062.post-90436512792287001812017-08-19T08:39:00.000-04:002017-08-19T08:39:39.950-04:00What is a Domination System?One of the most powerful things I have read recently. <br />
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A short read offering clarity about how we are where we are culturally. I also have some hope that we can indeed be on the long road back to our former coherence (as Thomas Berry wrote). <br />
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This comes from the book <u>Humanizing Health Care</u>, by Melanie Sears, RN, MBA. (page 23). Brilliant.<br />
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<b>What is a Domination System?</b><br />
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Domination structures were developed thousands of years ago when our ancestors moved from small-scale gardening to larger-scale farming. Because physical strength was needed to handle plows and other implements of mass food production, physically strong men found themselves increasingly in positions of power, and systems of domination began to evolve. A cultural spiritual shift occurred at this time away from reverence fro live and pleasure and toward domination and pain. In order to maintain rigid rankings of domination, violence and abuse became institutionalized and (as with unprosecuted mail violence of both warfare and the war of the sexes) bound up with gender-specific socialization processes.<br />
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In domination systems, there are two roles: Those who dominate and those who are dominated. Those on top control those below and benefit from their position at the expense of others. Those who are dominated often come to believe that they, too, benefit from the perpetuation of the domination system--after all, "Father Knows Best." The system is held in place through fear and force and through patters of thinking that polarize complex feelings and experiences into strict categories: right or wrong, good or bad, us or them, punishment or reward.<br />
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Dr. Terrie Lewinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15719784332986529971noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909843681566736062.post-44546353319359143972017-08-15T10:30:00.000-04:002017-08-15T14:19:55.431-04:00Can you ever WIN an argument?<div class="MsoNormal">
I did a bit of research on this.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I wanted to see if there are actual
guidelines about this.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Whether
I looked up how to win a debate, or win an argument, what is being offered is about
keeping calm, use logic, ask questions.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I found an <a href="https://www.inc.com/steve-cody/5-ways-to-win-a-debate.html">Inc.com
article</a> that says, “Gather your thoughts before you deliver the zinger”. Zinger? <o:p></o:p></div>
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defines <b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;"><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">WIN</i></b>.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Often subjective ~
as in our political debates, the press (and each candidate) announces the
winner (based on some undisclosed, not so obvious and very biased criteria.) Obviously in this case, each candidate declares themselves the winner. Then we (the witnesses) either agree or disagree. This might work in politics when the goal of the debate is to get votes.<br />
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Following this thought through, if you are going to have an
argument with someone and you want to win it, it would be wise then to set up
the structure that you both agree on about who wins. Otherwise the argument continues until either one or the other or both declare themselves the winner. This can look like ending the relationship, allowing us to continue to believe we are right about what we think, and most often continue to be in some level of upset with the other person ongoing. Possibly it dissipates in intensity over time, and more likely not. Just notice how you feel the instant you spot this person a year later!<o:p></o:p></div>
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<b>Make some rules.</b><br />
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So if you really want to win, rather than just declaring yourself the winner, get<br />
with your conflict rival and set up some rules for winning. <br />
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgT9n5ysepOKrj8WyFUrgeJFAeIksls7G0c72v4imfNNZ7Kd3-14o7gqa7KQZUbcICVMTJKe6I7QPYgI60SEvTUKeKjDiHb718UE16S8YMA1OY9-LbapV7h3PC4WeXvLtzv2VawwkX1bT7D/s1600/Game.Set.Match.+2.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="259" data-original-width="255" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgT9n5ysepOKrj8WyFUrgeJFAeIksls7G0c72v4imfNNZ7Kd3-14o7gqa7KQZUbcICVMTJKe6I7QPYgI60SEvTUKeKjDiHb718UE16S8YMA1OY9-LbapV7h3PC4WeXvLtzv2VawwkX1bT7D/s200/Game.Set.Match.+2.jpg" width="196" /></a>Taking this step actually requires listening, connection,
mutual understanding and agreement.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> Part of what will need to become clear to you both is what is the purpose of winning? What will be better in your life if you win? Understanding? More connection and shared reality? </span><br />
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<b>I am guessing you can see where this is leading?!</b><br />
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In
the context of Nonviolent Communication and creating a quality of connection
where everyone’s needs matter and get met, the very act of taking this step [reminder: step = talking and making agreements] is how you <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">win</i> an argument!<o:p></o:p></div>
Dr. Terrie Lewinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15719784332986529971noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909843681566736062.post-52144801037058024762017-08-02T12:01:00.000-04:002017-08-02T21:18:28.291-04:00Do You Know What You Mean?<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
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I have been to workshops where they teach that everything is
meaningless. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There is no actual specific
meaning inside what happens, or what people say and do.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Is this true?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Well, yes.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgNIKpb8ApOZwkoJqb-IOQHush0chWUfGugWPPlJGCBeURLihq0jZog-N1clSDkRBSi0FC0PdcdttqbotcGsFXfNLjmjue3aild9YUS9wP19T1_7mYxUqu1betoyQfH5uc8ABBmwhsv0oGp/s1600/thinking+image+3.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="194" data-original-width="259" height="149" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgNIKpb8ApOZwkoJqb-IOQHush0chWUfGugWPPlJGCBeURLihq0jZog-N1clSDkRBSi0FC0PdcdttqbotcGsFXfNLjmjue3aild9YUS9wP19T1_7mYxUqu1betoyQfH5uc8ABBmwhsv0oGp/s200/thinking+image+3.jpg" width="200" /></a>And…I might suggest this thought for people to consider. Hearing that nothing has meaning often leads to all kinds of emotional distress.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Why?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Because
the things people do and say have meaning to us.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Often super life changing, really deeply held
meaning. And this is also true.<o:p></o:p></div>
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How is this possible?</div>
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<o:p></o:p></div>
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Our filters make things mean things.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>So when a thing happens (or someone says
something) it means one thing to me, another thing to you, and yet another
thing to our friend.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>All the meaning is
happening inside each individual.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
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That is why when <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">you
believe</i> <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">what you think is true</i>
you are more likely to argue with someone.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Because they have the same belief, that what they are thinking is true.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If what you each think is not the same, and
you both believe your thoughts as truth, there isn’t much room for
understanding.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>So we spend lots of time arguing about our beliefs as if the meaning we each make is the <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">actual meaning</i>.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And, as we know, there is no <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">actual meaning</i>.<br />
<o:p></o:p></div>
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjJrUlsJtVFr_b3eOfv54BFzNcBRwtz0HWHjO1GiQ_4kHIb1G3er4h8gWg4j4xpm-uwPeirHl8WsUOMUIdPizKsTJ4mqRm7J9EoMj0Ynu5yGKAHqGiMsycKXEUF9OQc_xuM1YZ_msvJzHb4/s1600/disagreement+image.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="185" data-original-width="273" height="135" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjJrUlsJtVFr_b3eOfv54BFzNcBRwtz0HWHjO1GiQ_4kHIb1G3er4h8gWg4j4xpm-uwPeirHl8WsUOMUIdPizKsTJ4mqRm7J9EoMj0Ynu5yGKAHqGiMsycKXEUF9OQc_xuM1YZ_msvJzHb4/s200/disagreement+image.jpg" width="200" /></a>NO MORE DISTRESS!<o:p></o:p></div>
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So much distress and hours of unproductive conversations
would be alleviated if we each understood that the meaning I make is important
to me, and the meaning you make is important to you.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Acknowledge the difference and that we care,
rather than try to convince the how wrong they are.<o:p></o:p></div>
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For example…<o:p></o:p></div>
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I like vanilla ice cream and you like chocolate.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If I insisted that you like vanilla and you
insisted that I like chocolate we will be talking for a long time ~ with likely
not much resolve.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I will still like
vanilla, you will still like chocolate.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Instead if we chose to celebrate each other’s choices,
discussed the pleasure you experience eating chocolate and my joy in eating
vanilla, and make arrangements for us each to have those experiences we would
decrease our stress and increase joy!!</div>
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SAY THIS NOT THAT:<o:p></o:p></div>
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the truth, repeat it back to them with the words, “I understand from what you
are saying that you experience what happened as this….is that right?”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Once they have responded, you offer, “I have
made a different conclusion from what has happened, are you interested in
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They may or may not want to hear your thoughts.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Whether they invite a conversation or they do
not, you have saved many hours of arguing whose interpretations of the facts
are the ‘correct’ ones!<o:p></o:p></div>
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Are you in a relationship?
With anyone? In reality we are in
relationship with everyone we meet or even walk by. It is with some unspoken agreement that if
you walk by someone that you do or don’t say hello (or make eye contact).<br />
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<o:p></o:p></div>
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Let’s at this point just consider the important ones.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Significant other, workmates, friends,
business partners, family.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Are you
crystal clear about the roles you are each agreeing to?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>How do you know? <o:p></o:p></div>
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How much time have you spent making explicit agreements as
your relationship(s) evolved?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In my
business I find that it is only when you disagree that you realize the answer
to that question.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And usually it is ‘not
enough’. <o:p></o:p></div>
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When we get together with people it is usually because we
have some affinity.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We like what they
say, what they are doing, how they look, etc.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>We talk and we are mostly relating to our imagination of who that person
is because we can’t possibly know.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And
because we are limited to using words (mostly) to communicate, we don’t know
until we do that when you said a particular word, they imagined something
completely different than you did.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And most
often, there is no way to know it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We
thought we were in complete agreement!<o:p></o:p></div>
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TRY THIS EXERCISE:<o:p></o:p></div>
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Take a minute to get comfortable.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Now I am going to give you a word and I want
you to fully imagine it in your head.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Get a clear picture.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
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MOTHER<o:p></o:p></div>
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Okay…what (who) did you imagine?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Maybe your own mom, maybe mother earth, maybe
your children?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Possibly there are more
than one image, activities that you did with your mom, the special time you
baked a birthday cake together, and/or particular feelings.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Maybe your image conjured up feelings of
nurturing, or possibly the opposite, maybe disappointment.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Can you now imagine anyone else having the exact same image(s)
in their minds as you?<o:p></o:p></div>
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Probably not.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Let’s use the example of TREE…imagine a tree.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
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Likely no one else has the exact same image as you.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Yet, when you talk you agree that you love
trees, maybe you move in together and completely agree that you are going to
plant trees.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It may not be until you get
to the nursery that you realize you had been imagining completely different
things all along.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You wanted a huge
maple tree and your partner imagined a row of fruit trees.<o:p></o:p></div>
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This is when communication, self-awareness, care,
compassion, curiosity (all the skills that Nonviolent Communication teaches)
are critical.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Even when you do ‘have an agreement’, you may realize you
can’t really count on an agreement with someone else.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It may be simply because language and filters
get in the way of actual understanding as in the examples above, simply
different images/experiences are imagined when we speak.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And, as often happens, it may be that the
other person simply does something other than what they agreed to do.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Possibly even just minutes or days after they
made the agreement.<o:p></o:p></div>
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It really doesn’t matter what the agreements are or why the
outside agreement is no longer in effect.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span><b>What matters ultimately are your agreements with yourself.</b><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What needs/values you are committed to.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Knowing this leads to confidence and trust.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Confidence that you will trust yourself no
matter what.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Trust yourself to get your
own needs met.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Confidence that what ever
the circumstance, you have other resources and/or strategies to get your needs
met.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I am not suggesting that we don’t make agreements with
others.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am full on in support of
making agreements and often.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>However, I
am encouraging you to stay out of the trap of depending on someone else to do
what they agree to in order to be happy.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>The more you can keep your own agreements to your values, the more
resourceful and creative you will be in connecting to life, meaning what is actually
happening, and ask for what you want.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Which may or may not include the person who just broke the agreement. <o:p></o:p></div>
Dr. Terrie Lewinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15719784332986529971noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909843681566736062.post-72029439787672128782017-06-26T11:40:00.000-04:002017-06-26T14:00:40.749-04:00When Enlightenment Hurts<div class="MsoNormal">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi2E_s7O_51Ohky4Od6znI4FCooSxaT5_6Yxy1c1tYZWl_CKTs9NDza4PmbJGFjE8VdKkpuInaMX1zO7nZeQx_lQky6sd5q5lY8dsDFOW7ANFYkYP1zzvhuuIze5Bpkpf6qH6z3ZS1abLav/s1600/when+enlightenment+hurts+blog+image.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="120" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi2E_s7O_51Ohky4Od6znI4FCooSxaT5_6Yxy1c1tYZWl_CKTs9NDza4PmbJGFjE8VdKkpuInaMX1zO7nZeQx_lQky6sd5q5lY8dsDFOW7ANFYkYP1zzvhuuIze5Bpkpf6qH6z3ZS1abLav/s200/when+enlightenment+hurts+blog+image.jpg" width="200" /></a>Have you ever wanted to do something or thought things yet
weren’t really able to take the action required? Until something happened and made it so you kind of ‘had to’?</div>
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<o:p></o:p></div>
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I have a friend/colleague ~ Raven Dana ~ who introduced me
to the phrase “<b style="mso-bidi-font-weight: normal;">brick to the head
enlightenment”</b>.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I love this!<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
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As I reflect on my own life, I can think of an example or
two.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
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The first time was my unhappy marriage.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I had some clear ideas that this was <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">not</i> the man for me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If am totally honest, I knew before the wedding,
I just didn’t know how to not marry him.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>We were not a match in any kind of satisfying way, and long story short two
years in I got sick.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I was in the
hospital for 10 days, and when I came out, within a few months, we
separated.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I wish I had the
communication/self-awareness skills I have now back then, because I feel sad
when I think about how we broke up.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I
did the very best I could, wanting to be fair, and friendly, and yet it was one
of the three most challenging experiences of my life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>But, I digress.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The point of the story is that I was unhappy
and stuck and I got sick!<o:p></o:p></div>
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh1PhAweiHnntCob-O3TRZPhEZFRdPZRgf-vCAgmFNeu96KpyETiVgLpNSTU5yk-57tarXdaM4cFXstvtHQHTWWypFUgJXsKUcYVx4s4JTuieiGeeIelZ2Dhuwa0CBaiBNSAijBeVWZQd5V/s1600/bricks+pile.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="153" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh1PhAweiHnntCob-O3TRZPhEZFRdPZRgf-vCAgmFNeu96KpyETiVgLpNSTU5yk-57tarXdaM4cFXstvtHQHTWWypFUgJXsKUcYVx4s4JTuieiGeeIelZ2Dhuwa0CBaiBNSAijBeVWZQd5V/s200/bricks+pile.jpg" width="200" /></a><o:p> </o:p></div>
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I had cholecystitis.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Gallbladder disease.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>So
painful.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I suffered for years, and
finally had it surgically removed.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>People talked about
the idea of holding feelings in as being part of what might create such a
condition, which is what I did for most of my relationship with my
husband.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
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The enlightenment came because my first thought was after
being diagnosed, “This is something that happened because of my choices.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I did this.”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Almost instantly I changed my diet, stopped smoking (yes, I smoked) and
left my marriage.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The 10 days of my
hospital stay was my ‘brick to the head’.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I will spare you the emotional trauma of my hospital stay.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It was enough to realize, I will die if I
don’t speak up, if I don’t take care of myself.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>It was what I <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">needed</i> before I
could take action, even though I knew what action needed to be taken years
prior.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Recently, I had another experience of “forced mindfulness”.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>One thing that was/is distinctly different is how
much gratitude I have for the ‘help’.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>So
much gratitude.<o:p></o:p></div>
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I took a train to visit my boyfriend Steve.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>13 hours.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>When I got to his place, I noticed some pain in my low back.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>By the end of the day, I was barely able to
move.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Without pain that is. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And it got worse from there.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I don’t remember having back pain like this
ever before, and we were busy that weekend, so I was feeling all kinds of
scared.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Long story short…I got to take a
sleeper car home (very cool ~ ask me about it!) and upon my arrival home, taking
care of myself was my number one priority.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span><o:p></o:p></div>
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Here’s the thing…I had been saying that I wanted to prioritize
my well-being for 1.5 years, knowing I wasn’t well, and didn’t seem to be able
to actually do it.<o:p></o:p></div>
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With the amount of pain I was in, I literally (not
literally, really ~ but close) had no choice.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Every move was
deliberate.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>My body (the universe?) had
created a condition that I was able to actualize what I had been hoping for.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Pain was not pleasant, yet kept me honest
with my choices.<o:p></o:p></div>
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After one month the pain mostly dissipated.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In a weird way, I felt afraid.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I wanted the pain to keep me focused.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And, I didn’t want to hope for pain, so I
chose to remember the pain.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Act as if. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>So that is what I have been doing.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am remembering the choices I made when I
was in pain and continue to do those things.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>In my case, take walks, stand and lie down ~ reduce sitting to almost
never.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
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It is now two months.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I am still able to remember.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I
can move much more now, yet I am listening much more closely to my body
signals.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Certainly there are whispers of
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<b><span style="color: #e06666;">Say This Not That (to
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Next time you find yourself in pain ~ physical or emotional… </div>
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<li><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;">You might consider what is your
circumstance?</span><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;"> </span><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;">What is your body asking
you for more (or less) of?</span></li>
<li><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;">Check out the stories you immediately are
telling (asking) yourself.</span><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;"> </span><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;">Is this going
to last forever?</span><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;"> </span><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;">Why am I being plagued
with this? </span><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;"> </span><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;">What the hell is wrong with
me?</span><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;"> </span><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;">Why did this have to happen now?</span><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;"> </span></li>
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<li><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;">Now, take some time to <i>actually answer</i> the
questions.</span><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;"> </span><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;">I’m guessing there is some
valuable information if you take the time to listen.</span><span style="font-family: "symbol"; text-indent: -0.25in;"><span style="font-family: "times new roman"; font-size: 7pt; line-height: normal;"> </span></span></li>
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<li><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;">Consider the ways you can incorporate some
new/old/different habits into your life?</span><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;"> </span></li>
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<li><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;">Have you been thinking that life is hard and
people don’t support you in a way that you would like?</span><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;"> </span><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;">Now might be a good time to ask for the
support you need.</span></li>
<li><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;">Have you been longing for rest and didn’t know
how to get it into your schedule?</span><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;"> </span><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;">Is
this the ‘excuse’ you have been looking for?</span><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;">
</span><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;">Start saying more effective no’s and yeses.</span></li>
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Dr. Terrie Lewinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15719784332986529971noreply@blogger.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909843681566736062.post-67617752848046579802017-05-14T10:12:00.001-04:002017-05-14T13:19:07.571-04:00Happy Mother's Day...I Insist!<div style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 12px; line-height: normal;">
Many people come to me in hopes of finding ways to deepen their connection with loved ones, partners, family members, workmates, etc. So often they are confused thinking it is the other person who is creating the distance. I invite you to consider the ways you separate yourself from the people in your life, often with simple greetings, intended to connect. </div>
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Once again, it is a ‘holiday’ ~ Mother’s Day (don’t get me started on what I think about this) and I see on facebook and have been hearing multiple greetings of “Happy Mother’s Day” all morning.</div>
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How is it that <i>happy</i> is the only feeling offered? Can people be delighted? Can they feel satisfied or content? How about devastated or grief stricken? </div>
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Which feelings are you okay with? And why? </div>
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEipjPMwLrt4eW9B-4tGEJqqkiEtfHCyGOjHTNH_TA0FZym39PUfdAGb51WfOU7MVkee8xU9ZGIABzqzNB8U3KWooV2iqvbNJOJCuiprGwUbdNvdjgbN_HW6Pe5HhN5Gz6iH-FFZ9dnPvrJn/s1600/emotional+pain.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEipjPMwLrt4eW9B-4tGEJqqkiEtfHCyGOjHTNH_TA0FZym39PUfdAGb51WfOU7MVkee8xU9ZGIABzqzNB8U3KWooV2iqvbNJOJCuiprGwUbdNvdjgbN_HW6Pe5HhN5Gz6iH-FFZ9dnPvrJn/s200/emotional+pain.jpg" width="200" /></a>I am thinking of the mom who lost their child suddenly this year, struggling in every minute to understand how to feel happy, and on this day being bombarded with demands to do so. I am thinking of my niece who who lost her mom and is reminded today how many big events in her life she won’t have her mom to cheer her on, or ask advice from. I am thinking of the mom’s who are struggling with their kids who aren’t quite thriving and suffering with their own thoughts of “I’m such a bad mother”. Or the many, many people still longing for a feeling of connection or nurturing with their own mother and confused about the pressure they might feel today ~ given the call to honor their mother ~ deepening their feeling of disappointment or despair.</div>
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I encourage you to be mindful today (and every day). How about instead of dumping your insistence on how someone should feel about the day, you offer a connecting request? </div>
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<h2>
<span style="color: #e06666;">Say This Not That. </span> </h2>
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How about trying a few of these greetings? Notice if you are more connected with the person you are talking with.</div>
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<li style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 12px; line-height: normal; margin: 0px;">How are you feeling this Mother’s Day?</li>
<li style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 12px; line-height: normal; margin: 0px;">Is Mother’s Day a holiday that has meaning for you? I’d love for you to share a bit about your day with me.</li>
<li style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 12px; line-height: normal; margin: 0px;">I am missing my mom today and feel lonely on Mother’s Day. Is this a day you celebrate or mourn or both?</li>
<li style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 12px; line-height: normal; margin: 0px;">This is such a hard day for me, I’m curious how you are doing today?</li>
<li style="font-family: 'Trebuchet MS'; font-size: 12px; line-height: normal; margin: 0px;">I love Mother’s Day! It is an opportunity for me to celebrate all the people who have nurtured me. Would you like to hear a story about one? Is there someone in your life that you feel that way about?</li>
</ul>
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If you want connection, it is simple. Ask for it!!</div>
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Blessings to everyone out there with deep feelings today, whatever your experience is.</div>
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Dr. Terrie Lewinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15719784332986529971noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909843681566736062.post-84996291387422285382016-11-07T13:19:00.003-05:002016-11-07T13:21:50.199-05:00The OTHER Choices You Are Making this Election<div class="MsoNormal">
This election season seems to have been particularly
trying.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In ways that I do not
remember.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Of course, it also seems that
my memory is not what it used to be.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Why
am I at the computer again?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
Oh yes, this election has had and continues to have so much
energy, it is pulling people, squeezing out the hard, built up apathy and
inertia.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A deluge of thoughts and
feelings are being thrown around flooding the thoughtfields.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am experiencing it like some serious
weather.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A hurricane or a tornado of
sorts.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Can’t get away, nowhere to hide,
hard to breathe.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And it is a bit scary
and painful.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Not sure what will be left
of my life when it is ‘over’.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
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<div class="MsoNormal">
I hear talk of choices, “If you do choose this, you are
actually choosing something (someone) else.”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>“The choices both are horrible” (sometimes with one being more horrible
being thrown in).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>“One is dishonest, the
other uniformed, spewing all kinds of rhetoric without much of what is said
based in fact.” I hear it being said over and over by my friends, almost
everyone on facebook, the media and the comics I think are so funny.<o:p></o:p></div>
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</span>They are this and they are that. <o:p></o:p></div>
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So who is they?<o:p></o:p></div>
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They is you.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>At least
to the other person.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<div class="MsoNormal">
In this time when the people who have risen to the top
(however it actually happened) is what we have to deal with, we get to ask why.
<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We feel so much more comfortable when it
is ‘their’ fault.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>However, what I know
to be true is that we are all a part of this, somehow.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
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<div class="MsoNormal">
I would like to consider this in a bit smaller context.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If we were talking permaculture, I would be
saying consider this hyperlocally, or zone 1.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span><o:p></o:p></div>
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<div class="MsoNormal">
I am asking you to consider how you have been being during
this election season.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>How much listening
have you done?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Actually listening for
the deeper fears – under all the stories of what is showing up ~ for all the
people you disagree with?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>How much
dialogue have you even considered.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
I’m not even suggesting that dialogue is possible.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am curious if have you even tried offering empathy to those who are saying and doing things that you really, really don't like? This is when it really matters, when we might really make a difference, when we can discover how committed to understanding, compassion and nonviolence we really are.</div>
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<div class="MsoNormal">
How much of the name calling, forcing your opinion as truth,
hoping to drive the outcome you want, have you engaged in?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
It seems so easy this time.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>So obvious that ‘they’ are doing it.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>I wonder if you might take a breath and see if you can notice when you
are ‘doing it’.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
In this election, I wonder if we all have lost a bit of our
own compassion, our own values, our own open-heartedness.<o:p></o:p></div>
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For me, that is a choice.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>And if you choose to lose this in yourself, what is (has been) the cost?<o:p></o:p></div>
Dr. Terrie Lewinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15719784332986529971noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909843681566736062.post-40903620389617906222013-02-27T21:14:00.001-05:002013-02-27T21:14:24.607-05:00What's Your Evidence?
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Are you telling people what you think using language that masquerades your story as truth? <o:p></o:p></div>
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I believe the quality of your life depends on a few things,
one being the language you use and the words you say. For that reason I offered you this
question. I think with a few tweaks here
and there in what you say, you will feel more free, more open, more empowered
in your life. And, I think it starts
right here with how to share what you think.
And why you might not share it all.<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
When intending to connect with another person, offering them
a peak into your inner world is an
invitation to know you. Sharing what is
important to you and what meaning things have for you is connecting. So is the inverse. Listening for what is important to someone
else. And this can be quite alluring and
connecting even if what is important to you is different. Unless, of course you are talking about your interpretations
as truth.<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjd_ZjvZYSk2BA29XWegxg3Tk0oLGYT3Tx4ZFiQbtWP-PcSy739fRuxGPoMZ1tjYGWyNCTeuglm3AT8RtmfVJ_kEE9R8p7lY6PCznEdQGbsWO_FEkoSbbvE3Ngnk39wG6nU_sMYEqsmNYSO/s1600/thinking.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="196" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjd_ZjvZYSk2BA29XWegxg3Tk0oLGYT3Tx4ZFiQbtWP-PcSy739fRuxGPoMZ1tjYGWyNCTeuglm3AT8RtmfVJ_kEE9R8p7lY6PCznEdQGbsWO_FEkoSbbvE3Ngnk39wG6nU_sMYEqsmNYSO/s320/thinking.jpg" width="320" /></a>Most often you are so quick to do this, you don’t notice. You may have difficulty pulling apart the
‘what is’ from the meaning you make about the ‘what is’. When was the last time you said, “It is a
beautiful day!” or “That is such a great
restaurant!”? Interpretation. What is the evidence you use to make the
determination of a ‘beautiful’ day?
Perhaps, the temperature, how many clouds you see? In language it seems like nitpicking, in the
experience of the person listening to you, it is a challenge and a suggestion. <o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
What if you love sunny, brisk days, and your friend loves
the gentle rainy ones. In the sentence
“It is a beautiful day!” there is no invitation for your friend to have a
different experience of the weather.
And, really, there is little sharing about what is important to
you. Very little revealing of your inner
world. Try this on: “When I feel the warmth of the sun on my
face, and the breeze in the air, I feel so happy and alive. I am so grateful for this sun-shiny
day!” Now your friend knows exactly what
is important to you in the moment and how you feel about it. S/he can share in your joy, even if s/he
prefers rainy days. Connection is made.<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
If you say, “it is such a great day!”, your friend actually
has very little information as to why.
No understanding, no connection and there is no invitation for your
friend to have another experience of the weather than the one you declared as
the truth.<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
Let’s break it down a bit.
Static language – it is, you are, s/he is. Nothing exists as static. If you use these words, you will be mixing
your interpretation of the facts as a declaration of the truth. In a situation more important than a
discussion of the weather, you will most likely receive a response that you do
not want ~ if the person doesn’t agree with your interpretation. Instead, offer them the evidence, <b><i>what
you notice</i></b>, how you feel, and what is important to you about it.<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhmDSF0azqCHeR9lyBDOtqeGvLfTd7ZmqQB8FcaEwD2gb3KFPVdJVY62B2Z7xxiXRV9CmqPbGNfghJSJlmGqV4zaU0yQEZH7WMYqtS4gcC1qMn08B-PZmwr7dD0eUsbdlaf7B75sQYolBqt/s1600/Screen+Shot+2013-02-27+at+9.09.49+PM.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="220" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhmDSF0azqCHeR9lyBDOtqeGvLfTd7ZmqQB8FcaEwD2gb3KFPVdJVY62B2Z7xxiXRV9CmqPbGNfghJSJlmGqV4zaU0yQEZH7WMYqtS4gcC1qMn08B-PZmwr7dD0eUsbdlaf7B75sQYolBqt/s320/Screen+Shot+2013-02-27+at+9.09.49+PM.png" width="320" /></a><o:p> </o:p></div>
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What can you notice?
Three things ONLY!<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
1. Things outside of
you<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
2. Your bodily
sensations and emotions<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
3. Your thoughts<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
That’s it! Nothing
more. <o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
You can notice what someone says or does, how you feel about
what they say or do and what you think about it. <o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
Here are two possibilities...<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
Your boyfriend comes in a closes the door more loudly than
you are used to. It has happened in the
past, when he was angry. You greet him
by saying, “What are you so pissed at?” He
replies, “F*ck you, I can’t believe you just said that. I am so sick of your self-obsession. I wish, just once you could be caring about
me. I just saw two guys fighting
outside, and its pretty bad. I’m going
to call 911. Just leave me alone.” So now what?
This conversation needs an intervention.<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi19en5GWmScnuMufwC1vFi2yI4gCqcGJgEutTGfX6KZzqgFn8vFIT-0wkEneka7XvYd68OA3pvp_kgdLABvzOlMPnCFNTTsX-hICdnzn0kV0MeBYfYnwY3QVWSlaMSsfHCmPmWgKGJ7aJG/s1600/couple+arguing.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="138" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi19en5GWmScnuMufwC1vFi2yI4gCqcGJgEutTGfX6KZzqgFn8vFIT-0wkEneka7XvYd68OA3pvp_kgdLABvzOlMPnCFNTTsX-hICdnzn0kV0MeBYfYnwY3QVWSlaMSsfHCmPmWgKGJ7aJG/s200/couple+arguing.jpg" width="200" /></a><o:p> </o:p></div>
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OR:<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
Your boyfriend comes in a closes the door more loudly than
you are used to. It has happened in the
past, when he was angry. You greet him
by saying, “Oh my! I am thinking something is up for you given
how you shut the door. Will you talk
about it with me?” He replies, “I am so
glad to be inside. There are a couple of
guys outside fighting pretty seriously, I want to call 911. Will you make me a drink and wait for the
cops with me?”<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
In the first situation, you confused your interpretation of
the sound of the door shutting (noticing) with your boyfriend being mad
(interpretation). You shared it as the
‘truth’. Basically demanding that he buy
your assessment of the facts. While there
was a question, there was no invitation to share what was happening for him. <o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
In the second situation, you offered what you noticed, your
guess as to what was happening and an invitation for sharing. What you got back was connection.</div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
Take a minute before you speak ~ especially in difficult
conversations, to separate out what you notice, and the meaning you are
making. Share them as two separate
things. I believe the quality of your
relationships and your overall experience of the world will be richer, more
connected and you may have more freedom in all of your relationships.</div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
<o:p></o:p></div>
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<b>If you didn’t have pain, what would you be doing
differently?</b><o:p></o:p></div>
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I have a client who has been in physical pain for many months,
off and on approaching years, in fact.
She has attributed it to a car accident.
Science tells me in her case, 2 things.
One is that the ‘damage’ to her spine is not likely the cause of her
pain, and the other is that it is unlikely that the accident she had could
actually cause the ‘damage’ she does show up on x-ray and MRI.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<br /></div>
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Week in and week out, when she comes in, she tells me in
exquisite detail, over and over, the woes of her physical life and her social
life. Every week, I ask her to focus her
attention on the progress she is making, the decreased amount of pain, the
increased distance she can walk without pain, etc., which she also reports. It seems that celebrating and savoring these
changes is quite difficult for her. Her
focus is her pain, no matter what else she is experiencing. She just keeps asking when she would be out
of pain.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<br /></div>
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Recently, I asked her what would she be doing differently if
she was out of pain. What is missing
now, what can’t she do now because of the pain she is in. My intention was to bring to the foreground
of her attention her intention. What did
she want from life?<o:p></o:p></div>
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<br /></div>
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Her answer surprised me.
She said that if she felt better she was afraid that people would want
her to <b><i>do</i></b> more. That she wouldn’t
get the help she needed. As much as I
prompted, She did not actually say what she did want. In the end, the needs ~ what is important to
her ~ seem relatively clear. Support,
dependability, nurturing and ease come to my mind. <o:p></o:p></div>
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<br /></div>
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Her strategy to get these needs met seems so tragic to
me. She is in pain, and unhappy. And, she doesn’t ‘have to’ do the thing she
imagines people would ask her to do if she were well. <o:p></o:p></div>
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<br /></div>
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Is this familiar to you?
How aware are you of what you are wanting in your life? How stuck are you in the one or two
strategies that you have discovered over time get those needs met (no matter
how tragically)? Are you on the PAIN
WHEEL?<o:p></o:p></div>
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhR_a1jlRG6rijmB3BsY9GdHCy0wvHqeVRhVNlV4k5syNOeDnqbaVyR1AYHfA_ffuSHMdvkP80bS16ej2RXphMUBQzITCcOYi_q6J8xfSdBh62t1rBySEi5GLqHn4yBxMd50-TcuvD4_Jya/s1600/Screen+Shot+2013-02-11+at+11.23.13+AM.png" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhR_a1jlRG6rijmB3BsY9GdHCy0wvHqeVRhVNlV4k5syNOeDnqbaVyR1AYHfA_ffuSHMdvkP80bS16ej2RXphMUBQzITCcOYi_q6J8xfSdBh62t1rBySEi5GLqHn4yBxMd50-TcuvD4_Jya/s320/Screen+Shot+2013-02-11+at+11.23.13+AM.png" width="278" /></a>In the case of this client, I would love her to free herself
from her belief that if people expect and even ask her to do things, that she
has no choice but to say yes. It isn’t
true and the prison of pain she is living into is devastating to her happiness
and joy of life. For my client, learning
the skill of being able to say yes and no to requests gracefully and
compassionately would be quite empowering and dare I say, make her life more
wonderful.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
If you are in chronic pain ~ emotional or physical ~ sure,
being out of pain would be quite delightful.
Just make sure you ask yourself why?
Ask the deeper questions. Questions you want the answers to. Questions that can actually be answered and
will make a difference in your life. <o:p></o:p></div>
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<br /></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
Here are some examples:<o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
What experience do I want to have in my life? <o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
How can I have more of this regardless of my pain? <o:p></o:p></div>
<div class="MsoNormal">
What is my pain keeping me from experiencing? <o:p></o:p></div>
<!--EndFragment-->Dr. Terrie Lewinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15719784332986529971noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909843681566736062.post-32066096731079451312012-12-06T09:03:00.000-05:002012-12-06T09:03:17.485-05:00Truth or Consequences
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Or someone walking down a cobblestone street, in the dark, slightly damp
with scary music in the background. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style"; mso-bidi-font-family: "Baskerville SemiBold";">All these scenarios indicated danger or losing to
me. And I shied away from using the
word. Yet it is the current buzzword in
communication/new age health circles. So
I decided to look it up.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Baskerville SemiBold";">vulnerable</span><span style="color: #646464; font-family: "Times New Roman";"> |ˈvəln(ə)rəbəl|</span><span style="font-family: "Baskerville SemiBold";"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Baskerville SemiBold"; font-size: 11.0pt;">ORIGIN early 17th cent.: from late Latin</span><b><i><span style="font-family: "Baskerville SemiBold Italic"; font-size: 11.0pt;">
vulnerabilis</span></i></b><span style="font-family: "Baskerville SemiBold"; font-size: 11.0pt;">,
from Latin</span><b><i><span style="font-family: "Baskerville SemiBold Italic"; font-size: 11.0pt;">
vulnerare ‘to wound,’</span></i></b><span style="font-family: "Baskerville SemiBold"; font-size: 11.0pt;"> from </span><b><i><span style="font-family: "Baskerville SemiBold Italic"; font-size: 11.0pt;">vulnus ‘wound.’<o:p></o:p></span></i></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style"; mso-bidi-font-family: "Baskerville SemiBold Italic"; mso-bidi-font-style: italic; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">What!? Susceptible to
attack! Harm?! Of course it is hard to be vulnerable. Of
course I hear people say I don’t want to be vulnerable.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style"; mso-bidi-font-family: "Baskerville SemiBold Italic"; mso-bidi-font-style: italic; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">But what does that have to do with saying the truth? Why do we think that telling others what is
really going on for us will make us susceptible to attack? I’m sure it is an old story. Parents and society in general not being able
to communicate their needs without squashing the needs of the children? Possibly going to school for 12+/- years
sitting in straight rows, competing with the kids next to us for the approval
of the authority? Thus making ‘all
others’ our enemies? Yes, we do have a
lot to get over.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style"; mso-bidi-font-family: "Baskerville SemiBold Italic"; mso-bidi-font-style: italic; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">And is there a difference between being susceptible to attack and being
harmed? I think yes. And it is a big difference. If someone doesn’t like what you say or do
and they tell you (yes, even in ways you do not like, for example yelling or
poking fun) which may seem like an attack, still really what is the harm?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style"; mso-bidi-font-family: "Baskerville SemiBold Italic"; mso-bidi-font-style: italic; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">Talks about <i>physical</i> injury only. <i>Most</i> often when the discussion of
vulnerability comes up, it is emotional harm that we are talking about. “I don’t feel emotionally safe.“ And
that, my friends, is an <i>inside</i> job.
What I hear when you say ‘emotional safety’ is that you are not willing
to bear the feelings you have because of the meaning you make about what
someone says to you. You are mistakenly
giving your power away. Maybe that’s why
you might say you are vulnerable. But,
as it turns out, it isn’t true. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style"; mso-bidi-font-family: "Baskerville SemiBold Italic"; mso-bidi-font-style: italic; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">The consequence is to continue to outsource your emotional safety, and
wait til you think you can control what everyone says to you and wait and wait,
and hope to get your needs met, so you feel comfortable. Although I am not so sure you are really
comfortable, you just prolong the experience of feeling scared. Which is the very experience of not having
emotional safety. augh. What a horrifying loop!</span><span style="font-size: 11.0pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgeBLxMhAh_gRp1_mBSaf5hpxZTdmLunvGfPouQ5K8iCPD5gnHuG5dZLWBfkr-_1tBMs0exY-X2lK2KEG6SB4vJcFXF3vkkfvS8tb_-VOpv4p9xPXjo8Yzvp-XpMy6xkJvVWzwXt34JR4QS/s1600/freedom.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="220" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgeBLxMhAh_gRp1_mBSaf5hpxZTdmLunvGfPouQ5K8iCPD5gnHuG5dZLWBfkr-_1tBMs0exY-X2lK2KEG6SB4vJcFXF3vkkfvS8tb_-VOpv4p9xPXjo8Yzvp-XpMy6xkJvVWzwXt34JR4QS/s320/freedom.jpg" width="320" /></a><span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style"; mso-bidi-font-family: "Baskerville SemiBold Italic"; mso-bidi-font-style: italic; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">What if you took yourself on and remained curious about how and why you
feel a particular way? What if when
someone said something you didn’t like, you used your uncomfortable feelings to
guide you to the very things that are important to you in that moment? It is quite the powerful, resourceful place
to be. It is freedom.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style"; mso-bidi-font-family: "Baskerville SemiBold Italic"; mso-bidi-font-style: italic; mso-bidi-font-weight: bold;">You can walk down the dark alleys of relationships fraught with
dangerous conversations with confidence, knowing that your emotions (yes, even
the ones you have been trained not to like) are your gateways to identifying what’s
important to you. And when you know
what’s important to you, you can make conscious choices to have more of it – in
every moment.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<!--EndFragment-->Dr. Terrie Lewinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15719784332986529971noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909843681566736062.post-22345978193257840492012-10-24T08:06:00.000-04:002012-10-24T08:06:35.136-04:00Do I Trust You? (part 2 of a series)
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiilYj393ZxLMaQrvy3rUSQRvuXG2MDCTyBK716X9NYGVtlxEbbuBDUH1WgmRrXjTEeuZHY3oevAAWjtCxR2bNXmgMLm0Fm1OEaDaLhQLLasH5IsoYd53FdC1BTyOMJ95zkUdDDUiGiE19v/s1600/commitment-ceremonies.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="174" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiilYj393ZxLMaQrvy3rUSQRvuXG2MDCTyBK716X9NYGVtlxEbbuBDUH1WgmRrXjTEeuZHY3oevAAWjtCxR2bNXmgMLm0Fm1OEaDaLhQLLasH5IsoYd53FdC1BTyOMJ95zkUdDDUiGiE19v/s320/commitment-ceremonies.jpg" width="320" /></a><span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style";">Trust. Commitment.
These are important elements in a relationship. I’m sure you will agree. But how does it look in a healthy
relationship? That we may not agree
on. Please read on.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style";">If you watch
as much television and see the same movies as I do, possibly you yearn to hear
someone say, “I am committed to you”. Or
long to be in a relationship so you can say, “We are committed to each
other”. It sounds so romantic. And as soon as that happens you will live
happily ever after. Quite alluring. And I think, UNdoable. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style";">But the pull
is real. So use it for your
advantage. Ask yourself <i>why</i> would you commit to someone? What NEEDS will be met? What kind of experiences are you hoping to
have more of? (possibly safety,
security, partnership, love, inspiration?) These questions will enable you to determine
if being in a relationship with the person you are committed to is, indeed, an
effective strategy for the experiences you say you want. I suggest you (both you and your partner), commit
to those needs and values rather than to each other. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style";">Compare these
two scenarios:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style";">Scenario One:<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style";">You have found
the love of your life. You are committed
to each other. It is yummy. As humans, you begin the relationship by
projecting your hopes and dreams onto the other person. (And, after a while you will begin to project
your fears onto this person...but I’ll save that for another article). You like the same movies, you are both
interested in art, and reading the Sunday times in bed. You both want a house and two kids. Everything
is going to be great. Fast forward two
years. Your partner lost his job 10
months ago. You discovered recently that
it wasn’t due to a cut-back in his office, rather he got into a fight with a
co-worker, and then published some private information about that person on
facebook. Your partner was not the
person who gave you this news. He is now
interested in accepting a job halfway across the country. It would require you leaving your job of 7
years, where you will be vested in an 401k in just 2 more years (I made that
up, please forgive that I know nothing of 401k plans). For the past 6 months you have been happily
providing the finances that support you and your partner. You ask your partner for a conversation about
your concerns about his leaving out some details about how he was fired from
his job, and your dwindling bank account and moving. His response is, “I didn’t think I could tell
you what happened, and this is why. You
don’t have my back. I can’t believe you
even talked to so-and-so. I thought you
were committed to me. If you love me,
you wouldn’t be making it so hard for me to take this new job. Its perfect for me.”<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiMOiDaGBjpr-m0AgRvzDcFRd1ZH6APM03Ml0L_Xf3RJduI9klm4_A2IzqRpZ_FhDL-xhvDyD8nwCnuAM1FYjlnhnVBQod5sLNBEQarPqZVC4P0b0Rb46NQXRQLTNwdk0ZKjr94src6eyU3/s1600/commitment+phobe.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="132" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiMOiDaGBjpr-m0AgRvzDcFRd1ZH6APM03Ml0L_Xf3RJduI9klm4_A2IzqRpZ_FhDL-xhvDyD8nwCnuAM1FYjlnhnVBQod5sLNBEQarPqZVC4P0b0Rb46NQXRQLTNwdk0ZKjr94src6eyU3/s200/commitment+phobe.jpg" width="200" /></a><span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style";">If you are
committed to him, what are your choices?
It seems that he is no longer committed to you, although if you ask him,
he will say of course he is, that is why he wants to take the job. To support you. Even though that isn’t what you want in order
to feel supported. He is committed to
you, you are committed to him and now it doesn’t seem much like how you
imagined it in the beginning. I see
years of arguments increasing in volume and distress, until one of you blames
the other one enough to finally feel justified in breaking your original
commitment. Painful.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style";">Scenario Two:<o:p></o:p></span></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style";">You have found
the love of your life. You are so happy
when you are with each other. It is
yummy. As humans, you begin the
relationship by projecting your hopes and dreams onto the other person. You like the same movies, you are both
interested in art, and reading the Sunday times in bed. You both want a house and two kids.
Everything is going to be great. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi_9-uYPobyNJEZ_H_R2uTdA73qv_dee16hkeIGmoJGI7S0C2AcMF5XhOaZtQPRFaITMfxbgicBRTFXbcodz5OI3xAYP9d_gGEp3aILl0u-kezTSLe5kUj6ebs_c_MEvVXBFduFFXCPrxhu/s1600/commitment-ceremony1.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEi_9-uYPobyNJEZ_H_R2uTdA73qv_dee16hkeIGmoJGI7S0C2AcMF5XhOaZtQPRFaITMfxbgicBRTFXbcodz5OI3xAYP9d_gGEp3aILl0u-kezTSLe5kUj6ebs_c_MEvVXBFduFFXCPrxhu/s320/commitment-ceremony1.jpg" width="212" /></a><span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style";">As you deepen
your relationship you take the time to discuss what is important to you
individually and as a couple. For
example, you might say to you partner, “I am hoping to have an experience of
collaboration, fun, trust and honesty inside this relationship”. To support
that outcome, you each agree to have weekly check-ins, you decide that you want
to dedicate time to hear the important things that are happening in each other
careers, etc. In addition, you decide to
have monthly check-ins about how you feel about the relationship. Maybe this is where you get to say, “Last
Tuesday, when you decided to go out with friends, and didn’t invite me, or let
me know, I felt disappointed. I made a
roast for dinner, and I would have loved to have had more of an opportunity to
make plans with my mom, had I known in advance.
When we talked about collaboration, this is what I had in mind. I’d love to know how it worked out the way it
did, why you didn’t let me know ahead of time.”
This gives him an opportunity to express himself about what happened –
from the agreement to collaboration and trust.
Fast forward two years. Your
partner lost his job 6 months prior – in the same way as the previous
scenario. He told you about it, how it
happened, and how he felt about it. Now
he wants to take a job halfway across the country and has asked you to move
with him.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style";">The
conversation might look more like, “Honey, I understand you want to support me,
and I am having trouble trusting that this move will provide the support I am
looking for, given the circumstances of the past year. I am not prepared to give up the security I
have in my career, for the possibility that your job may work out. How about you go out for 3 months, and I stay
here. I will continue to contribute ½ of
the financial support during those three months. I am hoping that we can feel supported by
each other again in this arrangement, as we work our way toward finding more
trust, collaboration and comfort in our relationship. In 3 months, let’s talk about how it is and
isn’t working, and what kind of changes we’d like to make then. How do you feel about this arrangement?”<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style";">If you are
committed to the experience of trust, honesty, collaboration, your actions are
in response to that. Meaning, that even
if your partner ‘lies’ to you, your response to that would be one of
collaboration and trust and honesty.
Rather than blame. Remember that
what you say and do will be to increase the experience you are looking to have.
If it turns out that this person has changed their commitment, and is longer
interested in the same values you agreed to, then your choices become more
clear. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style";">There may be
many reasons to stay in the relationship – other needs that are getting
met. You may choose to get your
collaboration needs met in other ways, and modify your expectations about that
inside this relationship so that you feel more contentment. Not giving up...but <i>choosing</i> new strategies to get more needs met. There is no arguing in this case. It still may be difficult and sad to change
the relationship, mourning the loss of a certain quality of connection, yet there
is actually trust, collaboration and honesty inside the re-working of what
NEEDS you are both committed to inside the relationship <i>now</i>. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style";">In the second
scenario, where you are committed to NEEDS being met, there is so much more
freedom to choose the perfect relationship in every moment. NEEDS and values change, people change, dreams
change. Are you able and willing to notice
what’s alive in you now, know what is important to you for your life and commit
to that inside any relationship you have moment by moment?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
<!--EndFragment-->Dr. Terrie Lewinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15719784332986529971noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909843681566736062.post-67878575843624605102012-10-09T16:40:00.000-04:002012-10-09T16:40:09.181-04:00Do I Trust Me? (part 1 of a series)
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<span style="font-family: 'Bookman Old Style';">Trusting
people can be so confusing, can’t it?</span><span style="font-family: 'Bookman Old Style';">
</span><span style="font-family: 'Bookman Old Style';">There isn’t much worse than someone saying one thing and doing another.</span><span style="font-family: 'Bookman Old Style';"> </span><span style="font-family: 'Bookman Old Style';">It is just plain wrong.</span><span style="font-family: 'Bookman Old Style';"> </span><span style="font-family: 'Bookman Old Style';">We are only as good as our word after all.</span><span style="font-family: 'Bookman Old Style';"> </span><span style="font-family: 'Bookman Old Style';">Confusing because in Nonviolent Communication
we suggest that moralistic judgment (right/wrong thinking) is not a resourceful
strategy to get needs met.</span><span style="font-family: 'Bookman Old Style';"> </span><span style="font-family: 'Bookman Old Style';">Certainly in
this case you would be exempt from not making a moralistic judgment because lying
is </span><i style="font-family: 'Bookman Old Style';">clearly</i><span style="font-family: 'Bookman Old Style';"> inappropriate behavior. </span><span style="font-family: 'Bookman Old Style';"> </span><span style="font-family: 'Bookman Old Style';">No one likes a liar.</span></div>
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh4NncIqtCPsHphEvqyKtOzhv3YEUzptjsa4P0xDcluXI7SnTFpvqY_T5Ry_GXKbBvKY9JhuSWfSdbQG43UGsP4ZSWLf1KpOx24Qem28iSLgK7HR_Tl4OdwCo2NrHYJr7Bd0Na3M758W70k/s1600/trust.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="149" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEh4NncIqtCPsHphEvqyKtOzhv3YEUzptjsa4P0xDcluXI7SnTFpvqY_T5Ry_GXKbBvKY9JhuSWfSdbQG43UGsP4ZSWLf1KpOx24Qem28iSLgK7HR_Tl4OdwCo2NrHYJr7Bd0Na3M758W70k/s200/trust.jpg" width="200" /></a><span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style";">I have
grappled with this my whole life, and I can honestly say now that I like many
liars. And my life is
much easier now because of this. (Haven’t
we all ‘lied’ at one point or another?
C’mon.) I’ll explain this further.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style";">For reasons
that are no longer interesting even to me, I had built complicated rules about
people who made commitments to me and then broken them, or might break them, or
might talk about me behind my back, or did something and didn’t tell me about
it, or laugh at the wrong time when I was talking, and on and on.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style";">There were
many times when I was distraught about something someone did and I had strong
urges to punish them in some way for how I felt. I learned that my reaction was not
universal. I would talk to friends about
the situation and they didn’t think ‘it was that bad’. That is when I discovered that I might have
‘trust issues’ I decided to ‘work on them”.
<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style";">My first
strategy was to make clear agreements, and then expect (read: hope and pray) that everyone would live up to
them always. Of course I explained in
detail to people why it was important to me that they keep their agreement, and
most often the people in my life did keep their agreements. But...not always. And that became a problem. I would be extraordinarily upset. “How could they? Especially when they know my history...blah,
blah!” And even when people weren’t
breaking agreements, I still had worries that they might in any moment. Needless to say, I was in some level of
personal distress a great deal of the time.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style";">As I longed to
address this problem, get people to be trustworthy, I sought the help of a
teacher of mine. She asked me a simple
question. “Are you willing trust
yourself to meet your needs, by how you think, by how you listen, and by what
you do?” This question changed my
life. This is when I learned how to be
responsible when I discovered (or decided) that someone was not worthy of my
trust. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjtn8hocJr8D3GG4hkVIn5gNg6-ERsBrWUouMwQgrHN83GqJt8CkZi9TRd6-llQhpiz_eyE25cjWQ7vn78405MZKcuUZsT30v3iuwGJWNj3_fIy2wrzsTllISZpVYNQLM2ZVYpyWDG0VGCb/s1600/sparkly+hand" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="199" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjtn8hocJr8D3GG4hkVIn5gNg6-ERsBrWUouMwQgrHN83GqJt8CkZi9TRd6-llQhpiz_eyE25cjWQ7vn78405MZKcuUZsT30v3iuwGJWNj3_fIy2wrzsTllISZpVYNQLM2ZVYpyWDG0VGCb/s200/sparkly+hand" width="200" /></a><span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style";">Armed with the
understanding that needs are universal, and everything I say and do is to meet
a need, (and everything everyone else says and does is to get a need met), I
began to realize that my strategy to have an experience of trust was not very
resourceful. I was outsourcing the
responsibility to others. Yes, people
may or may not keep their agreements with me.
Intentionally or unintentionally.
And the real question I began to consider was, “Am I willing to know
what my needs are, and make an effort to address them in every circumstance I
find myself in?” <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style";">Here’s an
example, if someone breaks a commitment to you over and over, are you willing
to let go of expecting that person to keep the commitment, and make a new
choice about how you might relate to them ongoing? Or will you keep ‘selling yourself out’ and
ask again and again? Most likely blaming
them over and over, and labeling them untrustworthy – not worthy of my trust. This is an exquisite example of using
judgment to determine if life is being served (needs are being met). If someone is “untrustworthy” and you have a
strong need for trust, and you continue in the same way of relating, then
really, aren’t you the one who is not meeting your own need for trust? Are you being response-able to what your
feelings are telling you, to the situation in the moment? <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style";">Please consider
your resources (time and energy) when reflecting on this question. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Bookman Old Style";">Are you
willing trust <i>yourself</i> to meet your needs, by how you think, by how you listen,
and by what you do?<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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To the disappointment of my trainer, I often read magazines
while on the elliptical machine at the gym.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>A favorite is <i>Real Simple</i> Magazine.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I like the pictures, quotes, suggestions and
some articles, though I often find myself disagreeing with the advice given in
the Life Lessons section.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Here’s an
example:</div>
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Question:</div>
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My cousin, who lives one state away
is a terrible hostess.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Her home is such
a mess (think soiled clothes and piles of paper in the hallway) that I’m not
comfortable having my family stay there when we visit.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>However, I don’t want to hurt her feelings by
confronting her about her bad housekeeping.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>What should I do?</div>
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You’re right to stay away from
chastising your cousin.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Unless your
family’s health or welfare is directly affected (for example, your child has an
allergy to dust), it’s not your place to critique her homemaking.</div>
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Of course, you are under no
obligation to put up with it either.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Why
not simply stay with a friend, if you have one nearby, or in a hotel?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If she asks why you’re bunking elsewhere,
avoid hurting her feelings by saying, “You’ve been so generous to host my
family and overlook the disruption that a lot of guests cause.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I want to see you, but without creating so
much hassle.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>With any luck, she’ll thank
you for being so considerate.</div>
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When I first read this article I was nodding my head up
until the part when the author tells the advice-seeker to lie to her cousin. Of
course she should stay somewhere else if she feels uncomfortable with the
surroundings in her cousin’s home; a sense of obligation is not a good reason
to do anything. However, by being dishonest or evasive about her reasons for
doing so, she misses a chance build connection and understanding in her
relationship with her cousin. </div>
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WHAT WE VALUE </div>
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We all have opinions about what people do, how they live,
and what they say. The problem comes when we believe that our assessment is the
‘right’ one.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>What we think is neither
right nor wrong.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It is just a mechanism
to help us determine what we value.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In
this case, the writer values order and cleanliness as well as family and
connection.<i><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></i></div>
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LETTING GO OF JUDGMENTS</div>
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Just because we do not like the way someone does something,
in this case, housekeeping, does not mean that we must judge the person as
wrong for doing it that way.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>By letting
go of judgments and using language that emphasizes connection - for example,
asking with curiosity and concern about why the house looks the way it does - we
promote understanding.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></div>
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CONNECTION, NOT CONFRONTATION</div>
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For the advice seeker to lie about what is going on for her,
or keep it to herself and hope that “she’ll thank you for being so considerate”
seems at best misguided and at worst mean-spirited. This strategy assumes that
expressing her desires will necessarily result in conflict or hurt
feelings.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></div>
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SAYING WHAT IS TRUE</div>
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In this case, there really is no need for confrontation or
lying, nor to express condescension regarding the cousin’s housekeeping skills.
Nothing needs to be said about the house at all. Rather than saying, “I don’t
want to disrupt you”, which is not true, she could say, “I feel more
comfortable staying at a hotel”, which is true. By saying what is true and
letting go of the belief that the cousin needs to organize her house in a
particular way, the connection between the two of them can deepen.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></div>
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LIVING FROM THE HEART</div>
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Sharing what is really alive in our hearts seems so
difficult, but by doing so we open up a world of possibilities for personal
freedom, connection and satisfaction.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In
this case, the advice-seeker would do well to recognize her own values- her
preference for cleanliness and her concern for her cousin’s emotions - and ask
for what she wants with honesty and compassion. While the short-term outcome
might be the same - she’ll stay elsewhere - long term, her willingness to live
from the heart can’t help but bring the two cousins closer. </div>Dr. Terrie Lewinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15719784332986529971noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909843681566736062.post-1307088220890978782012-05-07T18:47:00.000-04:002012-05-07T18:49:09.390-04:00Feeling Rejected?<br />
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If you are on Facebook, you probably see many of the same
quotes I do. They are meant to inspire
us or make us laugh or cause us to see something in a different light. I’ve
read this one a few times as it’s made the rounds, and each time I’ve felt a
thud in my stomach. <br />
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<o:p></o:p></div>
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My intuition tells me that this quote is more likely to keep
people stuck than set them free. So I’d
like to tease out what troubles me about it.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<b>What does it mean to feel rejected?<o:p></o:p></b></div>
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W<i>hat happened</i> that you interpreted as rejection? Did someone turn down your invitation to
lunch? Did someone you were interested in fail to reciprocate your interest?
For the author of the quote, rejection equals sadness. But must you feel sad
(or hurt or upset or depressed) when someone turns you down?<o:p></o:p></div>
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If we dig a little deeper into your mind, the reason that
you feel sad (or bad or hurt) when someone rejects what you have offered is
because <i>you already believe you are not good enough.</i> Your brain has a way of interpreting the
facts to support your beliefs about yourself. This person didn’t want to go out
with me; therefore, he must not think I’m good enough.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<b>You can’t always believe what you think.<o:p></o:p></b></div>
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Bill Harris [<u><span style="color: #1155cc;">www</span></u><u><span style="color: #1155cc;">.</span></u><u><span style="color: #1155cc;">centerpointe</span></u><u><span style="color: #1155cc;">.</span></u><u><span style="color: #1155cc;">com</span></u><u><span style="color: #1155cc;">]</span></u>
attributes this process of interpretation to what he calls the <b>Internal Map
of Reality</b>. It works like this: You receive some kind of <b>input from the
environment</b>. As it comes in, this
sensory input is filtered. <b>Filters</b> include your beliefs, values,
memories, past decisions, the language you speak, information you have
retained, and on and on. Filters <b>delete</b>,
<b>distort</b>, and <b>generalize</b> the input as it comes in, based on the
way your Internal Map of Reality has been set up to filter, all of which
happens in a split second. And though
you’re aware of some of this, almost all of it is going on outside your
conscious awareness.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Your Internal Map of Reality organizes information that you
receive from the environment. Helpful, right? Most of the time, yes. Except
when somebody turns you down for an invitation to the movies, and this
“rejection” is instantly filed with the other evidence that proves you are not
good enough. When you feel bad about a supposed rejection, keep your attention
on what actually happened. Did my friend tell me I wasn’t good enough? No! She
just declined an invitation to go to the movies. <o:p></o:p></div>
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<b>If nothing is wrong with me, then something must be wrong
with you.<o:p></o:p></b></div>
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In the second part of this message, there is an implied
obligation. They should have accepted
what you offered. If they aren’t interested, then there must be something wrong
with them. But isn’t this really a demand?
They must like you, or else. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Why should we expect everyone to like us? Do you like
everyone you meet? Do you say yes to every invitation? Do you get in a relationship with everyone
you meet? Of course not! It doesn’t make
sense.<o:p></o:p></div>
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If you truly believe that what who you are is good enough,
then you will be confident that someone will be attracted to you, and you won’t
be hurt every time someone is not interested. I like to think of a golden
retriever I once knew. That golden
retriever ran around to each person she met - pet me! pet me! Even when pushed away, she just tried again. <o:p></o:p></div>
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<b>Compassion is the key.<o:p></o:p></b></div>
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When you offer something that is precious to you and someone
says no, you may think<o:p></o:p></div>
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the person doesn’t
value you. Rather than address what you already believe about yourself - “I
must not be good enough” - you tell yourself there is something wrong with the
other person. But as I say and write
over and over, there is nothing wrong with anyone. Maybe you didn’t clearly
express what you wanted, or the other person just didn’t understand. Or maybe
the other person truly didn’t want what you were offering. That’s okay. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Remember that compassion - for yourself and others - is the
key to keeping a rejection from turning into “feeling rejected”. Keep in mind that the person you are making a
request of also operates under the influence of an Internal Map of Reality.
Perhaps they would have liked to say yes but simply lack the confidence,
courage or understanding to do so.
Listen for what meaning they long for, and stay present to that, rather
than your own stories. You may be
surprised at what happens when you respond to rejection in this way.<o:p></o:p></div>
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<b>Ask for what you want.<o:p></o:p></b></div>
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<a href="http://www.blogger.com/blogger.g?blogID=909843681566736062" name="id.b8b0e7f61ddf"></a>Access your inner golden
retriever and ask, ask, ask for what you want.
And don’t let getting a no become more than it is. <o:p></o:p></div>Dr. Terrie Lewinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15719784332986529971noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909843681566736062.post-35264436921310026922012-04-05T07:26:00.000-04:002012-04-05T07:26:17.666-04:00Life and DeathI have recently experienced the death of someone close to me. The suddenness of this loss reminds me how fragile life is. <br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">My concerns, thoughts, and worries had certainly not been on this ‘healthy’ person. I had been preparing for others close to me to make this transition, contemplating how their passing would affect my life. Not Tom. Tom was slow, steady, strong. He was here for the long haul. <o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">Now, immersed in Tom’s personal papers, his things, awash in stories and memories of what he meant to people, I am reminded of the significance of every moment we live.<o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">I don’t, however, want to write about <i>his</i> life. I am writing about life. What do we do with it? We have it for some unspecified amount of time. We share it with some people in a deep way, with others in a more superficial way, and somehow - albeit unknown - we share it with those billions of people who are here for the same moment we are but whom we will never meet.<o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">Intention has been the theme of my life and my practice in recent years - knowing why, in every moment, I do and say the things I do. But what’s the <i>grand</i> intention? Is there a purpose to life? To my life? To your life? I believe it is up to each of us. We get to decide.<o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">Cosmological physicist Brian Swimme says:<o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 48.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">“At the very, very beginning, the universe comes into existence and these various forms of matter experience an attraction for each other. So that very attraction is what gave rise to our existence in our consciousness. In a way, <b>the purpose of human beings is to reflect love</b>, is to be self-aware of love, is to be conscious about love, is to be that conscious expression of love, as far as we know, in the universe.”<o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">If you knew you had a short time to live, would you spend that time being angry at someone for cutting you off on the highway? Or holding a grudge with your friend for forgetting to send a birthday card? Would you spend it judging people for how they eat? Or holding off saying something important? Or would you choose to spend your time left cherishing every minute? And if you chose to cherish every moment, what would you be doing? How would you being doing it, and with whom?<o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">I encourage you to give these questions some thought, some energy, some action. Why put it off? For every moment you are alive, know your intentions and act on them. For yourself, and for those you will leave behind. <o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">This poem by Dawna Markova, offers me inspiration and describes the grand intention for my life, which I consciously choose in every moment that I can remember. What’s yours?<o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
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<div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: black;"><span style="color: black; mso-themecolor: text1;">I will not live an unlived life.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div><span style="color: black;"> <div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: black; mso-themecolor: text1;">I will not live in fear of falling or catching fire.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: black; mso-themecolor: text1;">I choose to inhabit my days,<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: black; mso-themecolor: text1;">to allow my living to open me,<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: black; mso-themecolor: text1;">to make me less afraid, more accessible,<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: black; mso-themecolor: text1;">to loosen my heart<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: black; mso-themecolor: text1;">until it becomes a wing, a torch, a promise.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: black; mso-themecolor: text1;">I choose to risk my significance;<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: black; mso-themecolor: text1;">to live,<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: black; mso-themecolor: text1;">so that which came to me as seed<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: black; mso-themecolor: text1;">goes to the next as blossom,<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: black; mso-themecolor: text1;">and that which came to me as blossom,<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="color: black; mso-themecolor: text1;">goes on as fruit.<o:p></o:p></span></div><!--EndFragment--> <br style="mso-special-character: line-break;" /> <b><o:p></o:p></b></span></div>Dr. Terrie Lewinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15719784332986529971noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909843681566736062.post-92192408495798660292012-03-20T10:29:00.000-04:002012-03-20T10:29:59.901-04:00Spontaneity - Schedule Some Now<blockquote class="tr_bq"><div align="center" class="MsoNormal" style="margin-bottom: 5.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-align: center; text-autospace: none;"><span style="font-family: Arial;">“If you wait to do everything until you're sure it's right, you'll probably never do much of anything.” <span style="color: #262626;"> ~ </span></span><span style="color: #262626; font-family: Arial;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: x-small;">Win Borden</span></span></div></blockquote><br />
<div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">Recently my life became all about my schedule. Any blank spot on my iCal existed only to be filled - with work, dinner, a movie, a haircut, an appointment at the Apple Store to learn how to better use my iCal. I reveled in the idea that by organizing my time with rules and schedules, I was making myself more productive. My system was ingenious - it even had a color code for Happy Health Terrie Time, during which I was supposed to relax before moving on to the next scheduled item.<o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">My system seemed to be working - until I noticed how often I was saying, “I’m so busy.” Talking with people who weren’t on the schedule seemed overwhelming, so I stopped answering the phone and began to ignore emails. I grew so tired that workouts began to drop off my schedule - which I justified by telling myself that if I didn’t have a session with my trainer exercising wasn’t actually on the calendar anyway.<o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">Then I began to hear a little voice in my head, offering the same gentle reminder I so often give to my clients. “Listen to your body. What is it telling you?” As soon as I tuned in, it was obvious that I had been ignoring a message for quite some time. My mounting fatigue was practically an SOS call from my distressed body, whose demands I had pushed aside whenever they didn’t fit into my schedule. <o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">I started blocking off whole days - color coded of course - with the word Nothing. The beauty of the Days of Nothing was that they left me the freedom to choose what I wanted to do, right in that moment. I would relax if I wanted to relax, work if I wanted to work, go to the movies if that was what struck my fancy. Most importantly, I would be doing what I had decided to do <i>right then</i>, not a week or even an hour before. What I needed was spontaneity.<o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">Interestingly enough, rather than leaving me with more work piled up, the Days of Nothing increased my productivity. Having removed the idea that I <i>should</i> be doing any particular thing - cleaning or visiting family or balancing my check book - I was filled with the energy of choice and freedom. My fatigue lifted. <o:p></o:p></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiJ2cETloZvVujNlrKZ7KmoB0dZJAecC52XPpIoBddKt4ou8Ea6yru1452XvQ1aQ8vMJySyVj5CeOOOhV7H-o6NcYMgBrBqyE43qUIqRDOVPQqD-umXgCgmb9zLJIBuNseNlD2H_K7fA7yo/s1600/woman+doing+cartwheel.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" height="211" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEiJ2cETloZvVujNlrKZ7KmoB0dZJAecC52XPpIoBddKt4ou8Ea6yru1452XvQ1aQ8vMJySyVj5CeOOOhV7H-o6NcYMgBrBqyE43qUIqRDOVPQqD-umXgCgmb9zLJIBuNseNlD2H_K7fA7yo/s320/woman+doing+cartwheel.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">I found that even on the Days of Nothing I would often choose to complete some task I had been putting off, rendering spontaneous what had previously felt like a chore. Knowing the benefit that spontaneity provides, I now constantly look for opportunities to choose what’s important in the moment. As a result, I find that I am more relaxed, energetic, and enthusiastic, no matter what I am doing. <span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-size: 16pt;"><o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">Sometimes we can be so conscientious about doing what we <i>think</i> is good for us that we move too far in one direction, over-scheduling ourselves to the point that we leave no time or space for our bodies to tell us what we ought to be doing. Here are a few small ways to release your grip on rules and routines and allow your body’s expressed needs to be your guide.<o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><b>Your Sleep Patterns</b><o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">I recently posted an article on my <a href="http://www.facebook.com/pages/Back-to-Life-Wellness-Center/148709015202071">facebook page</a> which discusses some new ideas about sleep patterns. It turns out that eight hours in a row may not really be how the body wants to rest, at least not everyone’s body. How many times have you found yourself up in the middle of the night, worried more about the fact that you aren’t asleep than about anything else in particular? My belief is if you are tired, you will sleep. If you don’t feel tired, then be awake. If you weren’t busy being worried about being up in the middle of the night, and <i>trying</i> to sleep, what else could you do? There may be a rhythm that works better for you.<o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><b>How Much Water You Drink</b><o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">It’s practically ‘law’ to drink 8 glasses of water a day. Why? How can everyone possibly require the same daily intake of liquids? Personally, I think it’s pretty hard on your kidneys to drink that much every day. Try drinking just when you are thirsty. If you are active, or if you are outside on a hot day, you will naturally want to drink more. Your body knows what to do. It knows how much water you need moment by moment.<o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><b>How You Exercise</b></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;">Do you repeat the same workout every time you go to the gym, regardless of how you are feeling that day? Check to see if your body is calling for something. Is it begging to be stretched out on your heavy lifting day? Maybe you are feeling particularly strong and would like to reschedule cardio in favor of weights. Or perhaps you are about to get sick, and a nap would serve you far better than a workout.<o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
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</style> <![endif]--> <!--StartFragment--> </div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">There’s an old joke that goes like this:<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 48.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">A woman prays every day to win the lottery. Day after day, she prays, “God please let me win the lottery”. Finally, one day, god calls down to the woman and says, “Lady, can you help me out and buy a ticket?”<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">As someone people come to for care, I ask, <i>can you help me out</i>?<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";"><br />
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</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">Many of my clients come to me because they are in physical or emotional pain. Very often I can help, but <i>help </i>is the key word. I really can’t do it all. Your life is your responsibility, and caring for yourself is vital if you want to be well. A wonderful team that you trust to give advice and care can help to keep you healthy. But ultimately you must be in charge of your own health, which may require making changes in your life. If you need rest, you have to be the one who sleeps more. If you need more enjoyment, you are the one who must take the time to have more fun. <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">If you are not taking good care of yourself, there will be a limit to how much anyone else can do for you - whether your surgeon, your therapist, or your chiropractor.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">Recently a woman who had been in pain for quite some time contacted me seeking care. I asked her, “What have you done in response to your pain?” She began rattling off a list of practitioners she had seen - chiropractor, acupuncturist, shiatsu masseuse, medical intuitive, and several others. I asked her what she herself had done, what changes she had made to her daily life, and she looked at me with confusion, not understanding what I meant. I went on: what kind of self-care did she do? Did she rest? Did she meditate? Did she apply heat to the pain? Did she take a bath? Did she finally have a difficult conversation she had been putting off for years? Had she taken the time to consider the possible root cause of the pain? She didn’t have an answer.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">Pain is your body’s way of letting you know that something is amiss. Experiencing pain means that - whether on the physical, emotional, mental or spiritual level - something in your life needs to be addressed. When you feel pain, your body is saying, “Hey! Wake up!! I need something!” To figure out what that something is, you must learn to look inward. One of the best ways I have found to do that is through self-care.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><b><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">Here are a few easy ways to start practicing self-care.</span></b><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";"><o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">SLOWING DOWN<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpFirst" style="margin-left: .25in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l3 level1 lfo2; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.25in;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">Try taking daily bath, in hot, sudsy water. <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left: .25in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l3 level1 lfo2; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.25in;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">A nap can be a great way to recharge. Rather than reaching for another cup of coffee, give yourself permission to take a short nap during the day.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpLast" style="margin-left: .25in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l3 level1 lfo2; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.25in;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">Meditation is a great way to slow down and reconnect with yourself. Here are a few simple meditations to get you started:<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 47.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">1.<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">Conduct a three-minute body scan upon waking. <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 47.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">2.<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">Practice early morning gratitude meditation. Upon waking, notice 5 things you are grateful for right in this moment. You can even write them down.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 47.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">3.<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">Try a five-minute seated meditation in which you quietly notice your thoughts and practice letting them go. Over time, increase the length of the meditation.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="margin-left: 47.0pt; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l0 level1 lfo1; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.5in;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS"; mso-fareast-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">4.<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">Yoga is a moving meditation, whether you do it at home or in a class.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">SPEEDING UP<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">You may be in need of some physical activity to get you back in to your body. If you feel heavy or lethargic, or if your thoughts seem cloudy, consider trying the following:<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpFirst" style="margin-left: .25in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo4; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.25in;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">Head outside and take a brisk walk.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left: .25in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo4; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.25in;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">Go for a bike ride around your neighborhood.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpLast" style="margin-left: .25in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l1 level1 lfo4; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.25in;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">Take a dance class, or turn on music that makes you feel like moving, and just dance around the house by yourself.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">THE GREAT OUTDOORS<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">Nature is very healing. Even if you live in an urban place without much greenery, spending time in nature can be as simple as going to a park, or even leaning against a tree while waiting for the bus. If you live in the suburbs, find opportunities to get out of the car or the house. Walk on the grass in your bare feet. Plant a garden, large or small.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">BE CREATIVE<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpFirst" style="margin-left: .25in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l2 level1 lfo3; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.25in;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">Pick up a craft project you have been meaning to finish or wanting to start.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left: .25in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l2 level1 lfo3; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.25in;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">Learning a new skill, especially one that allows you to express your creative side, can be transformative. Try knitting or sewing, taking a pottery class, or learning a new language.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpMiddle" style="margin-left: .25in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l2 level1 lfo3; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.25in;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">Or buy a can of paint and take a brush to that beige wall you’ve always thought would look great in canary yellow.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoListParagraphCxSpLast" style="margin-left: .25in; mso-add-space: auto; mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-list: l2 level1 lfo3; mso-pagination: none; tab-stops: 11.0pt .5in; text-autospace: none; text-indent: -.25in;"><!--[if !supportLists]--><span style="font-family: Symbol; mso-bidi-font-family: Symbol; mso-fareast-font-family: Symbol;"><span style="mso-list: Ignore;">·<span style="font: 7.0pt "Times New Roman";"> </span></span></span><!--[endif]--><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">Cleaning, organizing, re-arranging furniture - all of these transformations of the space around you are creative acts that can bring freshness and ease into your life. <o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">COOKING AND EATING INTENTIONALLY<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">Take the time to eat healthily. If that feels too daunting, start with a few healthy changes in your diet. The act of cooking, whether for yourself or someone else, is an opportunity to slow down and savor the delight of creating great food.<o:p></o:p></span></div><div class="MsoNormal" style="mso-layout-grid-align: none; mso-pagination: none; text-autospace: none;"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span style="mso-bidi-font-family: "Trebuchet MS";">You get the idea. When you are in distress, take good care of yourself. As a health care provider I am on your team, and you are the team leader.</span><o:p></o:p></div><!--EndFragment--><br />
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<div class="MsoNormal">This article is about pain.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And bullying.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And how I think they are related.<o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I am writing this because of the ways I have heard people talk about their pain over the years.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Overall, I hear a sense that the pain being the problem at hand, the thing you need to get rid of so you may get back to the things you were doing in life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I understand the role of pain differently.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Pain is your body’s mechanism of letting you know how your life is going.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Your signal to do more or less of something.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It’s an information relay system.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It’s brilliant when we use it properly.<o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Somehow people relating to their own pain reminded of a novel I read entitled Nineteen Minutes.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Author Jodi Piccoult takes us through the life of her son, who is the perpetrator of a high school mass shooting.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>As it happened, I was moved by how much understanding I had for this 17 year old when he made this choice in life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Given how many times he asked for help and how many times he was thrown back into the fire – by loving and ‘sensitive’ parents. In his mind, this was the best way he could take his ‘power’ back.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It was so compelling.<o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">It has been quite a while since I read it, and what I remember is being taken through a story of a young boy’s [<span style="mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana;">Peter Houghton]</span><span style="font-family: Verdana; font-size: 13.0pt; mso-bidi-font-family: Verdana;"> </span>life, beginning with innocence and play, and then when school starts, he begins to get bullied, first on the bus, then more and more in school, loses his best friend, and each time he tells his mother, she can’t really hear what is happening for him.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She is doing the best she can, intends the best for him, and yet, repeatedly sends him back for more without offering new skills or ideas on how to do things differently. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>She was so invested in her own story about how this all should be handled that she wasn’t able to hear his pleas! <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The impact of that was devastating.<o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Are you bullying yourself?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Your pain, your symptoms, your emotions are your body’s only way to bring to your consciousness – to your attention that something is amiss.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Most likely, your body had been giving you signals all along, only in ways that you could not interpret, or that you ignored. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Something less than pain.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Think of it like this...your body is like little Peter Houghton saying over and over, please help me.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Yet we just tell ourselves that everything is or should be ok.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Or we take something to make those pesky symptoms go away, so we don’t feel anything at all, and then go right back to doing what has been making us sick or sad.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In this culture, feeling nothing is considered much better than feeling sad.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>In other words, ignoring our own pleas.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Until our body gives us no choice but to listen...for example:<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>cancer, heart attacks, strokes, autoimmune diseases of all sorts, debilitating back pain.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Pain or diseases that immediately threaten our lives.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Instead, I’m suggesting that you become more sensitive to your feelings, discover your needs, trust your body and respond accordingly.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Listen with a curiosity.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Treat your pain as an indicator that your body’s warning system is working perfectly, rather than an idea of failure.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>For example:<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If you eat something bad, and you get diarrhea or throw up, you may feel bad, but it would be much worse if your system didn’t have a mechanism to get the poison out.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Forcing our bodies to ‘hold it in’ would be significantly painful, and ultimately impossible.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It is with this same understanding and respect that all (or at least most of our ‘symptoms) could be treated.<o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">In general, we are united against bullying, and would stand up for anyone who is asking for help.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>This is a now famous video from Jonah Mowry: <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TdkNn3Ei-Lg">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TdkNn3Ei-Lg</a><span class="MsoHyperlink"> </span><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>which has brought many of us to tears.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Please think about considering yourself, your pain, your feelings, and emotions with the same tenderness and care that you would a little child asking for help.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Please stop bullying yourself.<o:p></o:p></div><!--EndFragment-->Dr. Terrie Lewinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15719784332986529971noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909843681566736062.post-24670160232663134392012-02-07T10:21:00.004-05:002012-02-08T08:45:26.609-05:00What Does Love Have to do With it?<div class="MsoNormal">It’s February and everyone’s thinking and talking about love. I’m reading all kinds of posts and ideas about love. Some examples are: “First, love yourself.” and “Don’t only let love in, let your love out.” I have also seen a workshop offered entitled “Fall in love with yourself this Season!” While what they are offering at this workshop looks delightful, I feel concerned when I hear this language. I’m not sure its possible. And now, during our cultural preparation for Valentine’s Day, women (mostly) get to feel more lonely and sad, because they are not able to ‘love themselves” or find someone to “love them”.</div><div class="MsoNormal"><o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">In my view love is not a verb. How can you ‘love’ someone? You can’t. You can only say and do things that you think will give someone an experience of love. For example, I might make you a favorite dish for dinner. I’m hoping you will have an experience of caring and love by my doing that. I might make the bed, clean the house, go to work, rub your back when you ask. These are the things we can do. They are verbs, actions. <o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Love is a need. Like all needs, love is an energy we get to experience. It is not something you do or something someone does for you. If you want to experience more love in you life, there are <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">many</i> ways that it can happen. However, when you believe you must receive it from someone else (especially only 1 person) – or in some magical way give it to yourself, you are actually limiting the possibilities for getting that need met. You are decreasing the likelihood that you will have more of it in your life. It is not resourceful. The thought is not helping you.<o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Consider this. If I cook dinner for you because I am excited about you having an experience of love, then in that moment, I am also having the experience of love. Love isn’t something I am giving you or getting from you. I am giving you dinner. The life energy being experienced, in this case love, is shared. Always.<o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">If I want to experience more love (which is what I am guessing people mean when they say love yourself), then I can do things that give me the experience of love. Meaning, I can make a friend dinner, rub someone’s back, send a lovely card to someone, offer a helping hand, etc. It is not necessary that someone do those things for me for me to have an experience of love. <o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">You can get into emotional trouble when you link an experience with the strategy -- how you intend to have that experience. Said another way, thinking “I need love.” is resourceful. Thinking “I need you to love me.” is not resourceful. Certainly, you may like to have people in your life who care about you and do nice things for you. It is <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">one</i> way that you can experience love—or ease, nurturing, compassion, etc. It is important to know, however, that it is not the <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">only </i>way for you to have those experiences in your life. If that is your belief, then it is no wonder why you cling to people, hold on, or get mad when they don’t do what you want. You think your needs will never get met if they, in particular, won’t meet them. <o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">I’d like to mention another thing I notice, especially now, during Valentine’s Day. Do you hope and pray, in (sometimes) desperate silence, that your special someone will ‘love’ you. What is the silence all about? I hear so many times from friends and clients, “I don’t want to have to ask them. If they loved me they would just do it!” <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">Please</i> consider asking. Ask for specifically what you would like done that would give you an experience of love, <i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">and</i> ask what you might say or do that so that your special someone might have more of an experience of love. Often what we want is quite different from what they want. That’s a good thing to know. <o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">How many arguments start with “You don’t love me!” “Yes I do!”? Since we measure if someone loves us or not by what they say and do, take responsibility for getting more of what you want in your life, be specific and ask. Hopefully, who you ask, how you ask, and how you ‘be and have been’ will encourage compassionate giving, and the desire to contribute to each other’s lives in the ways that you both like.<o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">Finally, when you want someone you care about to feel loved, instead of saying “I love you, try saying what is happening that you love. For a few reasons. One, it is what is so. ‘I love you’ is vague. Their first thought might be, “Why do you love me?” or “Oh no, what do they want now?” If a person had a childhood where love meant work, then saying I love you to someone may promote feelings of distress for that person, rather than comfort and warmth. If you are specific, they may like hearing what you say, and do it again. For example, you might say, “I am feeling so inspired and delighted right now being here with you and having this conversation. I so enjoy and appreciate hearing your viewpoint about the events of the day and I really like being all cuddled up together while we talk. I feel safe and calm and nurtured.” This, I believe, anyone will understand. <o:p></o:p></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal">And really finally, please remember how I started this article – hearing the words, “love yourself first”. When you are doing things so that another can have an experience of love (partner, friend, family member or stranger) then you are also immersed in the living energy of love. That’s how you can love yourself.<o:p></o:p></div>Dr. Terrie Lewinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15719784332986529971noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909843681566736062.post-33589244328086583342012-01-29T11:09:00.000-05:002012-01-29T11:09:51.098-05:00Where is the Focus of Your Attention?<!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <o:DocumentProperties> <o:Template>Normal.dotm</o:Template> <o:Revision>0</o:Revision> <o:TotalTime>0</o:TotalTime> <o:Pages>1</o:Pages> <o:Words>647</o:Words> <o:Characters>3690</o:Characters> <o:Company>Back to Life Wellness Center</o:Company> <o:Lines>30</o:Lines> <o:Paragraphs>7</o:Paragraphs> <o:CharactersWithSpaces>4531</o:CharactersWithSpaces> <o:Version>12.256</o:Version> </o:DocumentProperties> <o:OfficeDocumentSettings> <o:AllowPNG/> </o:OfficeDocumentSettings> </xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:WordDocument> <w:Zoom>0</w:Zoom> <w:TrackMoves>false</w:TrackMoves> <w:TrackFormatting/> <w:PunctuationKerning/> <w:DrawingGridHorizontalSpacing>18 pt</w:DrawingGridHorizontalSpacing> <w:DrawingGridVerticalSpacing>18 pt</w:DrawingGridVerticalSpacing> <w:DisplayHorizontalDrawingGridEvery>0</w:DisplayHorizontalDrawingGridEvery> <w:DisplayVerticalDrawingGridEvery>0</w:DisplayVerticalDrawingGridEvery> <w:ValidateAgainstSchemas/> <w:SaveIfXMLInvalid>false</w:SaveIfXMLInvalid> <w:IgnoreMixedContent>false</w:IgnoreMixedContent> <w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText>false</w:AlwaysShowPlaceholderText> <w:Compatibility> <w:BreakWrappedTables/> <w:DontGrowAutofit/> <w:DontAutofitConstrainedTables/> <w:DontVertAlignInTxbx/> </w:Compatibility> </w:WordDocument> </xml><![endif]--><!--[if gte mso 9]><xml> <w:LatentStyles DefLockedState="false" LatentStyleCount="276"> </w:LatentStyles> </xml><![endif]--> <!--[if gte mso 10]> <style>
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<div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">A patient that I’ve known for many years has been coming in for the past weeks complaining about a plumbing problem in his home. Each visit I got an update. The cast of characters in this story are: 1. Ed (my patient) 2. Sam (Ed’s plumber) 3. Ralph (Ed’s handyman) and 4. Joe (my plumber).</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Here’s the story:<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Ed’s been having a plumbing issue in his building.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He called Ralph, his handyman.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Ralph’s life isn’t going to well, so the cost to working with Ralph is listening to his somewhat horrifying and ongoing stories about things.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It is uncomfortable to say the least.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Ralph’s physical health and stamina are poor at best, so Ed must do much if not most of the heavy lifting – requiring him to be present to listen to Ralph’s sad life story.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The work is slow, usually effective, and at a reasonable rate, let’s say $30.00 per hour.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">The plumbing issue, Ed soon discovered, had not been fully resolved by Ralph.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Ed, however could not reach him for weeks (he later discovered) because Ralph was so depressed he could not answer his phone.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Ed was forced to call his plumber, Sam.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Sam does great work, but he is too expensive according to Ed, let’s say his rate is $75.00 per hour.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Sam came out, told Ed the problem.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Ed decided to call Ralph one more time, and as luck would have it, Ralph answered the phone.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Are you still with me?</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Ralph came out, did what Sam the plumber suggested.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>That did not fix the problem.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Ed reminded me how much pain he is in because when Ralph does the work, Ed must do the heavy lifting and carrying of things up and down the stairs – 4 flights.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Ed wanted to know if I knew a plumber?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Sam is just too expensive.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I really like my plumber.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He comes the day I call him, he gets the job done quickly, never needs to come back and I think what I pay him is worth the value offered.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I am excited to offer the referral.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Ed calls Joe, my plumber, and his rate is more than Sam – let’s say it’s $125.00 per hour.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Next visit in, Ed tells me this and absolutely thinks this is outrageous, with no intention to have him do the work.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>He is calling his already overpriced, yet unreliable plumber and waiting to have him come back.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Remember his assessment was incorrect at the outset.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>At this writing the problem is not yet solved.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Why am I telling you this story?</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">In this story, Ed tracked mostly on how much money he spent as the criteria for the quality of his life.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>[Ed is retired and lives quite comfortably on significant investments].<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Yet he has been so upset, complaining, and still the problem remains over six weeks later.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I wonder if he tracked on that, and made a different decision (actually didn’t have a plumbing problem anymore) what impact it would have on the quality of his life during December and January.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">How does this work in your own life?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Are there times in your day, or in your life, if you gave it some thought, that where you focus your attention would have an impact?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>You may call it positive thinking.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I prefer the image of resourceful thinking.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Does what you are thinking about give you more or less of what you want?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">Are you giving your ‘power’ away in somewhat indiscernible ways?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Are you willing to take the time to consider that one way to have more of what you want in life is to notice it when it is happening?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We all have filters at play that affect what we can notice.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If you are able to slow life down a bit to become more conscious of what is occurring in every moment, you can take better stock of your own contribution to what is happening.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">For example, Let’s say you want more connection with your partner.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Do you really amp up the complaining (externally or internally – thinking) when your partner stays at work til 8pm?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>When your partner comes home at the time you like, do you give it the same energy?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Or do you just say (to the partner or yourself) well, that’s just the way it is supposed to be?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><div class="MsoNormal"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">I’m suggesting that, if you gave what you want the same amount of mental and emotional energy, you may have more moments of having the experience you want – in this case, savoring out loud how much fun you are having together, etc.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>That’s all there is to do.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Are you able to just have fun, enjoy the connection, which is what you are saying you want.</span></div><div class="MsoNormal"><br />
</div><span style="font-size: 12pt;"><span class="Apple-style-span" style="font-family: Verdana, sans-serif;">We really have very little that we can control in life. One thing is – what we put our attention on. Try to notice when you <b><i style="mso-bidi-font-style: normal;">are</i></b> getting what you want in life, and give it some attention and energy. </span></span><!--EndFragment-->Dr. Terrie Lewinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15719784332986529971noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909843681566736062.post-10533384613604105452011-12-05T10:12:00.000-05:002011-12-05T10:12:19.935-05:00Language of Life Workshop beginning January 10Tired of the same old arguments? Now is the time to register for the Language of Life Workshop. It is a five week series offering a comprehensive introduction to Nonviolent Communication. Five consecutive Tuesday evenings, beginning January 10, you can begin to learn how to take more control of how you experience your relationship to everything! Follow the link below. <br />
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<span id="goog_1230966933"></span><span id="goog_1230966934"></span>Dr. Terrie Lewinehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15719784332986529971noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-909843681566736062.post-23242160716912642032011-09-26T16:40:00.000-04:002011-09-26T16:40:51.327-04:00Language of Life Workshop in Oakland, California!I am so excited to be sharing Nonviolent Communication in my Network colleague, Dr Jane Arzt's office. I'll be teaching at the Vitality Center in Oakland, California. The workshop begins Friday evening, October 7, and continues Saturday, October 8 and Sunday, October 9. It is called Language of Life, and it is a comprehensive introduction to Nonviolent Communication. Please call to register: 510-654-1480. Click below for details.<br />
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